People want to be happy. And oftentimes, we tend associate thishappiness to something called “core values”. Who we are, what we believe and how we act are somehow influenced by our core values; but we do not have only one personal value, we may have more than a few things that we have given much importance.
At some times, we may experience our core values are not in harmony, that one is pushing us and the other is pulling us in opposite directions. If we try to honor different values despite their opposition, value conflict - which can give us a lot of strains when it comes to important decisions, give us feeling of guilt or dissatisfaction - arises.
Value conflict is in itself a problem that needs to be solved. Resolving these value conflicts will relieve us of our incongruences, and will add to more bliss in our lives. We only need to choose the right option to get there. We can only live a harmonious life if we know how to balance everything; be it work and rest, or a balance among our different values. Each of our values embodies part of our being, and it is important that we are able to make them work together to have a balanced life. The irony is, we can only obtain this balance if we are aware of each rank of importance.
When we self-introspect, we will see that much of our attention is focused on a particular value; that there are values that we hold dearer to us. Knowing your priority values and making a list of them in decreasing importance will help you avoid conflict between them. We must only learn that we can still enjoy other values even if consider the most important ones.
Experiencing value conflict is common to each individual. But when we face this low-point in our lives, taking courage to solve this conflict will lead to more beautiful, happier, and more fulfilled life.